|The Day a President Died|
|The Day a President Died|
|By Susan Cheever '65|
It was one of those sunny autumn afternoons that smell of apples and falling leaves. Thanksgiving break was just a few days away. I checked the date as I walked out of Miller Hall and headed for the Thayer Street market. November 22, 1963.
I was happy at college, but I didn’t know that then. Fear of what
seemed like a hellish future eclipsed my good feelings. I knew I had to
get married, but my attempts at dating were spectacularly unsuccessful.
I was hoping to find a career, but the only things I liked doing were
sleeping and reading. How would I manage? My delight in the campus—my
friends, the solace of books, skating at Aldrich Dexter, and exploring
Fox Point—was dulled by anxiety.
We stayed up late debating whether it was better to die in a fiery
flash, be captured by the Russian soldiers who were waiting off the
coast, or slowly starve the way characters did in On the Beach by Nevil Shute, set portentously in 1963. In late-night conversations we quoted the elegant despair of Edna St. Vincent Millay—my candle burns at both ends/ it will not last the night. In class we studied the elegant despair of T. S. Eliot—I had not thought death had undone so many.
The question was how we would survive. The answer, my friend, was
blowin’ in the wind. Would it all end with a bang, or with a whimper,
as Eliot wrote? Fire or ice, as Robert Frost wrote? One thing we knew:
it was going to end, and end soon.
In those days the only publicly available television on campus was a
small black-and-white set in the Blue Room, where on that day it seemed
the whole student body had crowded in, all of them standing or sitting
on the floor and draping themselves over the few chairs to watch the
long, sad four-day weekend of national mourning. The picture was
grainy, the images tiny, but the little box seemed to hold the whole
world. There was the young Walter Cronkite with his heavy black glasses
and moustache, choking up as he announced that the president had been
pronounced dead. There was CBS reporter Tom Pettit in the chaotic
basement of the Dallas Police Station trying to keep up with the jumble
of events. A pale Lee Harvey Oswald was saying he hadn’t done anything
as he was pushed toward a man named Jack R:uby. Then there was a
popping sound, and the next minute Oswald was dead and the screen was
filled with a shoving crowd of men.
Before that weekend, television was where we watched the Mouseketeers and I Love Lucy.
Now our history was unfolding in miniature before us, in black and
white, with the tinny sound turned up as high as it would go. There on
screen was little John-John saluting his father’s coffin, and there was
the weeping widow, with her sad face and lovely clothes, standing
entirely alone with her two children. There was the riderless horse,
bucking in the autumn sun. I watched. I went for walks. I came back to
listen. The clatter of hoofs drowned out the guns of the funeral
In the fall of 2012 I returned as a visiting lecturer. I hadn’t been
back for more than an evening or an afternoon since graduation. As a
teacher walking that same sidewalk down Brown Street last fall, I had
vivid, nostalgic flashbacks: of sitting on the grass with friends; of
watching from the high windows of the Pembroke Library as a boy I had a
crush on walked up Meeting Street (did he know he carried my heart in
his pocket?); of buying my first yogurt (then a new, strange thing) at
the Thayer market; of splitting a piece of cherry cheesecake at Gregg’s
(now Au Bon Pain); of spending that weekend in the Blue Room watching
television. Nostalgia! Gone is the anxiety that killed my ability to
appreciate the beauty of the place and the luxury of having nothing to
do except learn. These shimmering images of the past seemed more alive
than memories—I was reliving my experience at Brown, only this time I
was reliving it joyfully.
Nostalgia is the bittersweet memory of the past, literally an ache for
homecoming—the bitterness is the passing of time, the sweetness is our
survival. The Brown campus, it turns out, is nostalgia central for me.
Returning to it was like having a romance with an old friend. I reveled
in the past that I can enjoy now. I did get married; I did find a
career. Recently, dozens of academic papers on nostalgia have been
published at universities from the Netherlands to South Africa, and the
United States. Nostalgia is a good thing, the psychologists all agree.
We use our longing for the past to give our lives meaning. Nostalgia
makes us feel more important and more generous: “It serves a crucial
existential function,” says researcher Clay Routledge of Britain’s
University of Southampton. British researchers have developed the
Southampton Nostalgia Scale (How often do you experience nostalgia? How
significant is it for you to feel nostalgic?) I scored a seven out of
seven. We’ll always have Paris!
What do I remember learning at Brown? How to survive a broken heart.
How to cook an elaborate stew on a hot plate. That my worst fears
rarely come true. How to read a book a week. When Professor David
Hirsch talked to me about Henry James and Edgar Allan Poe, the ghosts
in their stories jumped out at me. I read F.O. Matthiessen’s American Renaissance
with Professor Barry Marks, and I have since written my own books about
those Concord writers—Emerson, Thoreau, and their neighbors, the loony,
impoverished Alcotts. I thought personal style was everything in those
days—how could I be friends with a girl who wore pink? I got a little
smarter. My first roommate and I became good friends after all. I loved
Now I’m smart enough to see that I was with my people at college, a
generation of confused and frightened kids looking for and finding our
answers in books. As it turned out, in spite of the death of a
president on an autumn day, we didn’t die at college, and we didn’t die
soon afterwards. World War III was a fearful, exaggerated chimera. We
didn’t die, and instead we did something much more difficult than
dying: we learned how to live.
Susan Cheever is the author of fourteen books. Her biography of the poet E.E. Cummings will be published in February. She is working on a history of drinking in America.
Illustration by Matthew Richardson